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Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Hanigavana - 1
Age no bar
Many a times I used to wonder why some girls go for guys much younger to them or some guys prefer ladies much elder to them (even though both the cases are same i.e girl is elder than a guy, there are two different views; A guy' and a girl')instead of the much followed convention (both the partners around the same age or the guy slightly elder than the girl). I was poked by this question soon after I heard the news of the much hyped abhishek-ash engagement. It's not the first time I was bugged by this question, but then I would convince myself saying they are mere exceptions. But later when I dug into the matter I came across some stunning facts which actually changed my perceptions towards 'Age no bar' marriages. Let me clear myself here, this is not a guide to teach any tricks about charming a girl regardless of the age or nothing like that. This is an attempt to analyze some of the unconventionalities in the age difference of a couple. Whatever I am writing below is purely my point of view aided by a bit of research. Many might not agree with me, many might think I am biased, many might despise the topic itself regardless of the content but I am just expressing some of the many points.
First things first, this is no 19th or 20th century, there is seldom a huge difference in age of the couple. Young couple here have the tendency to choose partners of almost their age and it's a trend already. Even then there are cases where there is a huge difference in the ages of the couple. There cannot be many girls who are below 25-25 and prefers younger guys. An individual's perception about his/her partner varies at different phases, for instance an individual at his/her teen is more likely to be attracted to an elder guy/girl but its unlikely that they get married at that age. A guy/girl at that junction of life feels that the opposite sex of their age looks like a poor imitation of elder guy/girl. Once the teenage is passed, its a different story altogether. Here again the perception about the partner takes a kick on the butt. This is the age when a fairer sex lays the stepping stone for the rather unconventional marriages. There are two major reasons why a girl might prefer a much elder partner, its either because the girl is carrier oriented or she feels she is secure with an elder guy who is well settled than a guy of her age who is still struggling to find an identity for him in the society. The next phase is for the ladies who are well settled and have made their mark in the society; yes I am talking about the celebrities. Being a celebrity no female creature marries before 30, being self stable they would never have to worry about the security or the future and that gives them the edge to go for guys much younger to them.
As far as the guys are concerned the prime reason that drives them in choosing a older partner is emotional support. They think the partner who has seen more winters can stand by them in thick and thins, can advise in any crisis situations, most of the qualities which a younger partner lacks. There are several other reasons which makes a guy prefer an elder partner, but they are not relevant here.
As far as my knowledge is stretched girls usually mature much earlier than boys mentally. A girl of 18 thinks in the lines of a boy of 20 but it all gets balanced once they both cross 25. The reason why I did not mention the other possibility of age difference (guy elder than girl by more than 10 years) is because it was not a rarity before.
Finally it all comes down to the age of an individual at the time when he/she decides to marry. There are several factors which forces an individual to follow the convention like Family, Society, the environment he/she was brought up, level of Education, etc but again the same factors can force the individual to break the convention and choose the best for him/her. The greatest revelation for me was age doesn't matter as long as the couple are happy and have mutual respect for each other.
Girl dating a Guy younger to her... BIG DEAL!!!
First things first, this is no 19th or 20th century, there is seldom a huge difference in age of the couple. Young couple here have the tendency to choose partners of almost their age and it's a trend already. Even then there are cases where there is a huge difference in the ages of the couple. There cannot be many girls who are below 25-25 and prefers younger guys. An individual's perception about his/her partner varies at different phases, for instance an individual at his/her teen is more likely to be attracted to an elder guy/girl but its unlikely that they get married at that age. A guy/girl at that junction of life feels that the opposite sex of their age looks like a poor imitation of elder guy/girl. Once the teenage is passed, its a different story altogether. Here again the perception about the partner takes a kick on the butt. This is the age when a fairer sex lays the stepping stone for the rather unconventional marriages. There are two major reasons why a girl might prefer a much elder partner, its either because the girl is carrier oriented or she feels she is secure with an elder guy who is well settled than a guy of her age who is still struggling to find an identity for him in the society. The next phase is for the ladies who are well settled and have made their mark in the society; yes I am talking about the celebrities. Being a celebrity no female creature marries before 30, being self stable they would never have to worry about the security or the future and that gives them the edge to go for guys much younger to them.
As far as the guys are concerned the prime reason that drives them in choosing a older partner is emotional support. They think the partner who has seen more winters can stand by them in thick and thins, can advise in any crisis situations, most of the qualities which a younger partner lacks. There are several other reasons which makes a guy prefer an elder partner, but they are not relevant here.
As far as my knowledge is stretched girls usually mature much earlier than boys mentally. A girl of 18 thinks in the lines of a boy of 20 but it all gets balanced once they both cross 25. The reason why I did not mention the other possibility of age difference (guy elder than girl by more than 10 years) is because it was not a rarity before.
Finally it all comes down to the age of an individual at the time when he/she decides to marry. There are several factors which forces an individual to follow the convention like Family, Society, the environment he/she was brought up, level of Education, etc but again the same factors can force the individual to break the convention and choose the best for him/her. The greatest revelation for me was age doesn't matter as long as the couple are happy and have mutual respect for each other.
Girl dating a Guy younger to her... BIG DEAL!!!
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